Chapter 138: Suffering Brings Experience
I originally thought that after renting a house, things would be more stable. Who knew that just after a month’s salary came in, the girlfriend’s family found out she was working and asked her for money.
This is really speechless. The boy’s girlfriend is named Wang Fei.
When Wang Fei and the boy first met, she had only been out of school for a few months. She had worked two jobs but quit after only a few days, and didn’t have much money.
It can be said that since she met the boy, he has been supporting her. Being young, she liked to go out and have fun, and the boy spent a lot of money on her.
After supporting her for so long, now that she can finally earn money, her family wants it again. Oh dear, damn it.
At this moment, where would the boy have any money? There was no other way, so he borrowed money and gave it to her. Gradually, Wang Fei also knew that it wasn’t easy for the boy. Seeing the worry on his face, she said with heartache, “Just this once. Don’t ask for it for now. We’ll talk about it when things get better for us.”
Of course, these words were actually taught by the boy. He told her, “A person must first ensure they can survive, and then improve a little before caring for others, or their family. Not when they themselves are struggling to care for anything. This is called ‘When poor, cultivate one’s own morality; when prosperous, help the world.’
Of course, this doesn’t include family or friends who genuinely need help. If there’s a real issue, all principles can be broken.”
After renting the house, the two were still not at peace. Because one understood so much and the other understood nothing, their conversations were completely out of sync. When the boy said something, Wang Fei would just focus on the literal meaning and not understand the deeper intent. Then, Wang Fei herself couldn’t express what she wanted to say.
For example, when the boy saw Wang Fei making mistakes at work and getting scolded, she would come home annoyed and complain to him.
The boy told her, “Let’s not be like others. When you encounter something, don’t complain first. Calmly think about a solution, that’s the most important thing, not to ramble or get angry.”
Wang Fei said, “How am I like others? Although I get angry easily, I also know when it’s serious.”
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It’s all so speechless…
When she was at work and resting her feet, she was told off. She blamed others for telling her off instead of admitting her own dishonesty. She learned things much, much slower than others, and blamed others for being smarter than her instead of admitting she wasn’t trying hard enough. This kind of thing happened all the time. Every time the boy advised her, she would say he was siding with outsiders against her.
Who was the boy helping? The boy didn’t even know those people; he was just advising her not to be angry about useless things.
It’s as if all mistakes were the fault of heaven and earth, but never hers.
The boy thought to himself, “She says she knows when it’s serious! When is it serious? You don’t even understand what I’m saying, how can you know when it’s serious? Oh, damn it…”
Or, the boy would tell Wang Fei not to touch things in a certain place, otherwise they might get lost. Wang Fei wouldn’t listen, always thinking she knew best and moving things to where she thought they should be. Afterwards, when she couldn’t find them, she would blame the boy for misplacing them. This would infuriate the boy, who would comfort her, telling her to think carefully. If she couldn’t remember, she might not find them until they grew mold.
Or, when something was clearly someone else’s fault outside, she would endure it and not know how to resist. When she was criticized, she would cry. When she got home, she would complain tearfully to the boy, and get angry with him.
The boy taught her, “If it’s our fault, we admit it. If it’s not our fault, don’t let them bully you. Even if they’re the factory director, I’ll curse them out! They’re so spoiled! Don’t be afraid, I’m here, what are you afraid of?”
Little by little, Wang Fei’s personality began to change. Because she was with the boy for a long time, even her walking posture changed.
In Gouzi’s words, “Little sister-in-law’s walk now is a bit like that of Harley Quinn in the movies. It’s hard to explain.”
Forget about her, even the boys around the boy would change after spending a long time with him. Those who were timid before would gradually become bold. Or they would become bold at crucial moments.
Normally, they appeared harmless and reasonable. But once they were seriously bullied, they would instantly turn hostile. Not a single one of them was a coward.
This is a good thing. If you suppress yourself by being a coward for too long, what happens when you finally break out and impulsively do something foolish? Wouldn’t that person go crazy from suffocation?
The boy and Wang Fei’s life together, cough cough cough, there are too many things, it’s impossible to describe.
In a month, they would argue for at least twenty-odd days. Only when there were a few days without arguing would they say they were just tired of arguing.
From Wang Fei’s temperament, the boy could tell that she was extremely afraid of being told off since childhood. She was always criticized for everything, which led her to distance herself from any issue before admitting anything.
But no matter how you distance yourself, the problem doesn’t change…
Escaping from problems is never a solution. Facing problems and finding methods is the key to solving them.
As life gradually got better, Wang Fei didn’t want to work anymore. This was because the boy would say things when he was bored, like, “For example, working a lifetime is useless. It can only solve basic needs and doesn’t lead to wealth. You should see working as a transition, and continuous learning is what makes people awesome in the future.”
Wang Fei only remembered the part about working being useless and always used it to argue with the boy.
The boy asked her, “What can you do? What are you capable of?”
Wang Fei had nothing to say, because she couldn’t do anything.
“Having ideas is good, but you need to face reality. If you don’t want your body to suffer, then don’t be lazy with your mind. After work, watch less useless stuff. If you must watch, watch everything. If you don’t understand, research and look up information. Watching videos and giggling all day, or playing games for hours, is completely useless.”
Although the boy said this, at that time, he also often played games and watched videos to numb himself and drift through life. Whenever he had nothing to do, he would go out drinking.
The production line the boy was on was disbanded, and he was transferred to do manual labor elsewhere. He gritted his teeth and endured it, because he knew that no matter what you do, as long as you overcome the initial resistance, you will naturally make progress.
Later, Wang Fei was also transferred to a different work environment. She was still frequently told off. One time, she was criticized for something that had nothing to do with her. The boy got fired up and said, “Damn it, I’m not doing this anymore.”
The two stayed in their rental room for a while. When they had nothing to do, they went out looking for work. They saw a job doing handicrafts at home. The boy immediately knew it was a scam to get a deposit and that it would be too difficult to succeed.
He told Wang Fei, “This job is definitely no good. No matter how good it sounds, it won’t be like that once we do it.”
Wang Fei wanted to go and see. The boy said, “Don’t even go. If you go, you’ll be deceived. Once they fool you, you’ll believe them.”
But Wang Fei was like she was possessed. She had such good hopes and kept bringing it up with the boy. The boy said, “Don’t mention it to me anymore. If one day I’m not careful and accompany you, it’ll be easy to be deceived. As they say, even tigers can doze off. Although I’m awesome, I’m still a mortal, and sometimes I can be deceived too.”
This was the worst. Before he said this, it wasn’t a big deal. But after he said it, Wang Fei would talk to the boy every day about going to see.
Finally, the boy thought, “Fine. People, if they don’t stumble a few times, then no matter what you say, it’s useless.” So he accompanied Wang Fei to see. He asked Wang Fei how she felt. Wang Fei said it was okay. He spent a few hundred to buy her some of the items and paid the deposit.
As soon as they got home, cough cough cough. Forget about making one, they couldn’t even make half of it.
Even for someone as intelligent as the boy, after trying several times, he could never complete the final step. This time, Wang Fei finally believed what the boy had said. This is called learning from experience by suffering a loss.
